Are You Part of the Sandwich Generation?

The photo above may look yummy, but once you get behind the metaphor it isn’t so appealing anymore.

What is the sandwich generation? Basically it’s the people who are financially caring for their retired parents while they are also financially providing for their children. In other words, they are financially “sandwiched” between two generations that can’t provide for themselves. It’s a relatively new term, which just made its way to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary in 2006. Though the term originated in the US, it’s a common phenomenon here as well.

But how does this happen?

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Day#22: Discuss finances with a friend or relative.

This is Day #22 of “25 Days to Healthier Finances”, a series of blog posts where Frugal Pinoy readers and myself work on 1 task a day to make our financial lives better. Please stay tuned for the next installment of this series, which will be up tomorrow. Here’s today’s installment:

For most people, it’s taboo or bad manners to talk about money. But sometimes, not discussing money properly leads to even deeper problems. For example, married couples often disagree on their financial status. In one survey, 86% of couples admitted that they regularly fought over money. Another survey revealed that more than 2/3 of Americans learn about money management from home rather than school. Whether we like it or not, discussing money with others has a significant impact on how we perceive or handle it.

Today’s Task: Discuss finances with a friend or relative.

Your discussion doesn’t have to be deep or complex. Here are some examples of some simple starting points:

• Ask an older relative what they wish they started saving up on when they were your age.
• Give your kids glass jars where they can collect loose change and tell them why doing this is important.
• If you’re interested in starting your own business, you can ask advice from a friend who has done it before.
• Ask your parents what they wish their parents taught them about money.
• Go on your social networking sites (Facebook, Friendster, Multiply) and make a post about how you’re interested in learning how to manage your money, invest, or whatever aspect of personal finance you’re most interested in. Ask openly if your contacts have any books or blogs to recommend.

Of course, before you start any conversation about money, assess your relationship with the person first. How close are you? What do you expect to gain from the discussion? Have you discussed finances in the past? If you’re having trouble gauging their comfort level , keep these pointers in mind:

• People are more open to discussing things like cost of living (bills, rent, etc.) and budgeting/planning methods rather than specific price tags on purchases or how much their salary and savings are. Ask “how” rather than “how much”. “Do you know a cheaper grocery store or market nearby?” is better than “How much do you spend on groceries each month?”
• Friends and relatives in the finance sector tend to be more open about these kinds of discussions, so if you have a close friend who works in that field, talking to them is a good start.

Why is this important?

For me, talking about money – especially with my partner – is an exercise in getting real. It allows me to express and evaluate my ideas about what money is and how I treat it as a resource. Without my regular discussions with my partner, I might not be as disciplined about managing my money well. Also, doing this can be a learning experience. I have some friends that I ask financial tips and advice from. They allow me to see things in new ways that I haven’t explored before. It’s certainly much better than keeping all your thoughts and ideas inside without the input of others.

How often do you talk about money? What is your experience with talking to your spouse or parents about it?

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